What to do if my twin flame is married?
Many twin flames who approach us have same question that What to do if my twin flame is married?
This is because they have met their counterpart in this life when either one of them is already married or both of them are already married to other partners.
Lets take example of a real twin flame couple Tinku and Tina to understand this third party situation.
If you want to know more about this couple then you can see video series below.
When twin flames meet?
Tinku was around 35 and was well settled both financially, emotionally and family wise, but still he used to feel a kind of emptiness in his life.
He used to feel that he needs a spiritual friend who can help him in growing.
Tina was around 40. She had seen some broken relationships in the form of abandonment, betrayal and other kind of trauma.
Both of them had previous partners and also had kids with these partners.
Note that even before Tinku and Tina had met each other, both of them had started to feel that their partners are drifting away emotionally from them and it created an emotional vacuum for both Tinku and Tina.
So when Tinku and Tina met in this life time, they immediately felt at home.
Tinku and Tina started to grow closer due to the irresistible pull between them plus it was also filling the emotional vacuum that has been created by the distancing of their partners.
Initially it looked like a nice friendship and as time passed, they became more and more closer to each other.
Both of them started to loose interest in their current partners, and due to this they also started to feel guilty as they felt that they are cheating with their partners.
Why twin flames face separation?
Tinku and Tina had a strong bond due to which their existing partners started to feel insecure.
So these partners started to oppose the relation between Tinku & Tina.
As this opposition increased, it became more stressful for Tinku & Tina and everyone else involved in this situation.
Tinku and Tina were not ready to leave each other, but by each passing day, the stress was increasing.
Inner guilt and also opposition from others, plus society conditioning was creating more and more stress & restlessness.
And so, one day when stress crossed tolerable limits, they were forced to get separate from each other.
It was a situation of helplessness.
When you remember that “my twin flame is married”, you my face this helplessness.
Why one Twin Flame have to do all work?
In the last few days before getting separated, a higher master soul appeared during a regression session of Tina.
Tinku asked this question to master soul that Why Tinku and Tina had met so late in life and how this relationship will survive the opposition of society?
To this, Master soul replied that “You will find a Way Tinku and Things will be sorted.”.
Universe was giving signs to Tinku that his relation with Tina is special.
So once Tinku and Tina got separated, Tinku started to search for answers.
Fortunately, he had opportunity to come in contact with a spiritual master, and with his guidance, Tinku accepted and embraced this separation and started on the path of inner work.
Twin flame was a totally new concept for Tinku.
But with guidance from his Spiritual Master and Universe, he understood that for now the inner work is to be only done by him, until he is able to trigger the awakening of Tina through Inner work and energy work.
Tinku understood that Tina is acting under the effect of her ancestral karma and society conditioning and he can clear these karmas and conditioning, just by working on himself.
He understood that with his inner work, Tina will follow him shortly.
Note here that even if you think “Oh! my twin flame is married”, still one person from a twin flame pair can do inner work and help their twin flame to awaken.
Can I Forget My Twin Flame?
Tinku asked him self that can he forget Tina?
He knew that he can’t forget Tina, so instead of waiting, its better to continue on the path of inner work to overcome the pain and confusion that has been triggered by this situation.
He understood that it is just a test, a preparation phase for a cosmic marriage with his twin flame and inner work will heal this pain and will give him peace and clarity and he can manifest harmony with Tina.
He understood that with inner work, every thing is possible even if he was constantly thinking about question that “my twin flame is married”.
So its better to focus on his inner work.
How do you know if someone is your twin flame or soulmate?
During separation, Tinku also faced this confusion that whether Tina is his Twin Flame or not.
Although he was seeing most of the signs that were described as Twin Flame Signs like special connection, having same values, connection at all levels, time stopped when near twin flame, seeing her name everywhere, etc.
As discussed in this video, he was also getting guidance from master spirits to find a way and sort out everything,
Still he was confused as he had never experienced such phenomena before in his life and a thought that was bothering him was that “my twin flame is married”.
His master guided him that only way to get confirmation about this connection is to keep on doing inner work.
It is said that If you let your upset mind settle, then your course will also become clear.
How to Not Hurt My Partner for Twin Flame?
Tinku also had doubts that whether he is doing right with his current partner?
So he asked this question to his spiritual Master:
Tinku: “Master, is it right to seek my twin flame, while I already have a partner and my twin flame is married?”
Master: “Tinku, whether you seeks freedom from all this confusion by doing inner work or whether you seek your Twin flame?”
Tinku: “Master, my first priority is to get clarity and to get out of all this confusions.
I will do inner work to establish my self in state of being Yogasth.
Among my Twin flame and my partner, whoever is going to follow the journey of inner work to reach a state of being Yogasth, will stay with me.”
Master: “Tinku, keep on moving ahead on the path of inner work and keep this in mind that things will turn out for the highest good of all, which includes you, your partner, your kids and the partner and kids of your Twin Flame.”
Understanding Twin Flame Union
If you are separated from our twin flame, then first priority during separation is to get back into contact with them even if this thought is there in your mind that “my twin flame is married”.
For Tinku and Tina, union did not mean marriage.
Union only meant that they are able to talk or interact with each other openly without any stress or fears and no one has objection to it.
It also means that Tinku was not targeting to leave his partner or kids for twin flame.
And know this that Tinku did lot of inner work and finally got clarity and further got into harmony with his twin flame in couple of years.
His consciousness expanded with his inner work and it effected positively everyone including his Twin flame and his current partner.
Tinku’s relation with his current partner changed to be like friends, where they give respect and freedom to each other to live as they please to.
Tinku’s partner moved ahead in her journey to unite with her Twin flame and Tinku is helping her in getting ahead in this journey.
Tina’s partner also changed completely and he moved out of her life to pursue his soul mission and to clear other pending karmas.
Tina is helping him clear these karmas by providing him guidance, assistance and healing.
And now Tinku and Tina can both meet openly without any fears or stress and they are also guiding other twin flame couples to move ahead in their journey to harmony.
What is Twin Flame inner work?
There are many types of inner work, but if you are targeting twin flame journey, then your inner work should be specific to this journey.
Its good if you are already doing any kind of inner work.
But if you want to accelerate your journey of harmony with your twin flame, then you can see details of our online twin flame inner work program, which is specific to twin flame journey.
As for tooth problem, you go to a Dentist & for skin problem, you go to a skin specialist, similarly for twin flame journey, its better to do a inner work that is specifically designed for twin flame journey.
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Jnana Param is a Spiritual Teacher, Twin Flames Coach and Kundalini Yoga practitioner. About Jnana Param
